This Father’s Sigh of Relief

Coaching Corps’ Robert Marcus discusses this week’s guilty verdicts.

Like many fathers over the past year, I’ve been talking to my son about George Floyd’s murder and the subsequent uprisings. And like many fathers, I’ve made the point to explain to him that George Floyd had a family. He had friends. He was a member of his community. George Floyd was a human being. George Floyd deserved to be treated with humanity. He deserved to live. Instead, one afternoon, he was murdered. But he did not die in vain. His murder galvanized a movement of millions of Americans from all backgrounds in the fight for equity, equality, and the dismantling of systems of oppression that have historically, and to this day, deny the humanity of Black Americans.

The verdict against Derek Chauvin can be used as a stepping stone in the movement to eliminate the disproportionate amount of police violence against Black Americans. Coaching Corps stands in support of the decision to convict Derek Chauvin on all charges related to the murder of George Floyd. While Derek Chauvin will be held accountable for his actions, no amount of justice will return George Floyd to his family and friends or dismantle systemic structures that lie at the root of inequity and oppression.

We cannot allow the emotions of this moment to fade into inaction. We must continue the movement for change that was awakened in the wake of Mr. Floyd’s murder, and led to the uprisings we witnessed in 2020. Let us use this time to advocate for systematic changes that equally resource all communities while ensuring tragic crimes like the murders of George Floyd, Daunte Wright, Oscar Grant III, and countless others, are no longer repeated.

As I sat in anticipation of the verdict, I agonized over what I would say to my young son if Derek Chauvin was acquitted. I wondered how I would navigate the conversation of another community member’s life being taken without consequence by someone sworn to serve and protect us. Yet again, I thought about my obligation to make sure that my boy understands that racism and police brutality are very real, and that those two things could quickly escalate to a tragic loss of life. I wondered how to have this real conversation while reassuring him that his humanity and dignity are not simply social justice issues as depicted on TV, but a basic human right owed to us all when we come into this world. A right we demand without qualification and we will never stop fighting for.

I know that our coaches around the country were also wondering what they would say to our young people at afternoon practices yesterday if Derek Chauvin was acquitted. I agonized over how they would navigate the conversation with their players of another community member’s life being taken without consequence by someone who swore to serve and protect. Luckily, at least for this one afternoon, the conversation for me and our coaches, could be one of hope and action.

Here, at Coaching Corps, we promise to use our voice, platform, and resources to fight for equity and equality for kids of color. We promise to fight for meaningful and enduring change and to ensure that the youth sports and mentoring space is a place where all kids, regardless of where they live, can reap the benefits of caring coaches.

 

Robert Marcus

Coaching Corps

Director of Government and Community Engagement

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Going Above and Beyond the Call of Duty

Benita Vargas-Brown, Volleyball Coach at Hampstead Hill Academy

Benita Vargas-Brown grew up in one of the poorest parts of Baltimore. She always wanted to make a difference in the city, which is why she became a social worker. That same passion eventually led her to coach and mentor kids in sports. Learn more about Benita’s journey in her own words.
How did you become a Coaching Corps coach?
I didn’t go looking for coaching, it found me. I was really stressed with my job and my final semester in undergrad, so my husband said, “You’re really not helping yourself. Why don’t you leave your job, take the semester off, and figure out what you want to do next?” So, I went to a volunteering fair, and that’s when I got to know Coaching Corps. It was destiny: They were looking for a volleyball coach, and I am qualified to coach volleyball. They said they needed a coach for Hampstead Hill Academy, which is literally just a walk away from our home. So, it was really perfect.
Can you tell us more about the challenges that the kids you coach face at school and at home?
When people hear Baltimore, crime and violence are among the usual challenges that come to mind, so it was extra important to keep the kids off the streets. I’ve had to drive some of the girls home so they don’t have to take the bus when it’s dark.
There have also been some differences among the girls. The school is located at Patterson Park, where on one side you have the million-dollar houses, and on the other you have boarded-up houses. So you wind up having kids coming from privileged and underprivileged situations. This created some interesting dynamics within the team that led to some difficult conversations, but we got through it eventually. That’s one of the benefits of team sports. We got this whole learning experience that wound up really positive at the end.
You mentioned something about “interesting team dynamics.” Can you share more about that?
This is actually one of the things I’m proudest [of] about my team. The girls take it upon themselves to address differences within the group. At one point, it became very clear during our practice that something wasn’t right. We were on this championship drive but there was obvious tension within the team. The girls came to me and gathered as a group to talk things through. The fact that they came up with that strategy on their own is really amazing. For me, it meant that we’re doing something right. After that talk, we got back together as a team. I’m so glad we did it because I know for a fact we wouldn’t have won the championship without sorting things out. Everybody makes mistakes. At the end of the day, what’s important is to be there and have each other’s backs.
What changes or improvements did you see in the girls as a result of being on the team?
The most obvious one would be the sense of maturity. To be in a position where you have a responsibility over something, to be able to practice and play, there are expectations. If you didn’t come to practice on Wednesday, you’re not going to play on Thursday: that’s the consequence for skipping practice.  Eventually it wasn’t the consequence that really drove them. It was their commitment.
All my [Coaching Corps] girls who tried out for high school sports made their teams. There are two highly-rated schools in Baltimore, Baltimore Polytechnic institute and Baltimore City College. To get into those schools is every parent’s and kid’s dream. They have great education and high graduation rates, and they don’t tolerate gang-related violence, which creates a safer environment for the kids. Fifteen of the girls from the team got in and played for Poly while 13 went to City. That makes me really happy.
Wow! If there’s one way to describe success and promoting equity, that would be it. With all these experiences, what advice would you give aspiring coaches and mentors for kids?
Show up. You have to be there. You have to be consistent. You can’t cancel on these kids. Over the course of my time, if I know something’s going to come up in my schedule, I plan for an assistant coach to take over. Kids know if you care. You can figure out everything else, there are Youtube videos for that. You just have to show up because these kids expect you to be there for them.
Afterschool Partners

Orlando

Boys & Girls Club of Central Florida

City of Orlando Athletics

Afterschool Program Partners

Other

JT Dorsey Foundation

Afterschool Program Partners

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Gompers Preparatory Academy

High Tech High

La Maestra Foundation – Center for Youth Advancement at Generations

The Monarch School

Pro Kids | The First Tee of San Diego

Soccer Kids America

YMCA of San Diego County

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Los Angeles

A Place Called Home

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After School All Stars: Los Angeles

Boys & Girls Club of Venice

Boys & Girls Clubs of Carson

Boys & Girls Clubs of Metro Los Angeles

Boys & Girls Clubs of Santa Monica

Boys and Girls Clubs of the LA Harbor

Brotherhood Crusade

City of Huntington Park Department of Parks

East Los Angeles Rising Youth Club

Equitas Academy

Girls on the Run of Los Angeles

Girls Play Los Angeles

ICES Education

IMPACTO

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Long Beach Parks, Recreation and Marine

Los Angeles Rec and Parks

Major League Baseball Youth Academy

Norwalk La Mirada Unified

P.F. Bresee Foundation

Sloane Stephens Foundation

Street Soccer USA: Los Angeles

Team Prime Time

Variety Boys & Girls Club

Watts Rams

YMCA of Metropolitan Los Angeles

Afterschool Program Partners

ATLANTA

Boys & Girls Clubs of Metro Atlanta: Samuel L. Jones Boys & Girls Club
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Boston

All Dorchester Sports and Leadership

Boston Centers for Youth & Families

Boston SCORES

Cambridge Community Center

East End House

Oak Square YMCA

Sole Train: Boston Runs Together